When Sarah recognized she was a lesbian she found support first from a gay teacher in her high school. Ed was sent to an ex-gay ministry when he first told his family he was gay. Comedian Ellen DeGeneres confirmed her sexual orientation on national television and international pop star Ricky Martin announced to the world that he was gay on his website. The experience of publicly identifying oneself as lesbian gay bisexual or transgender LGBT is deeply personal for each individual. But while the particulars vary there are issues and questions shared by all. Should I come out When should I come out Who should I come out to first The most important thing to know is that youre not alone.